We are less than three weeks away from getting married. There are only 19 sleeps to go in fact. I’m nervous, excited, concerned and blissfully happy – all at once. I am obsessed with scheduling the day so I can fit everything in while the photographer is with us, but conscious of trying to do too much in too little time. I’m wondering if there is anything I’ve overlooked, or if the weather is going to behave. At times, I admit it’s overwhelming, and it has certainly taken over my thinking a lot of the time.
However, more important than any detail or concern is the knowledge that we have planned a wedding day which reflects our relationship and the marriage we want to establish. Every decision has been weighed up, considering whether it is important and necessary to our wedding. Time has been spent effectively, and a good chunk has been dedicated to looking at our relationship (both in guided counselling sessions with the pastor who will marry us, and independently during long conversations and reflective time). We have picked out our priorities, and spent money there. Things that are not as important to us, have been discarded where appropriate.
There is a keyword that I have often come back to. Simple. The day should be about marking the commitment we are making to each other, and having the people who are most important to us there to celebrate. Beyond that, little else genuinely matters. We have a photographer who will capture those memories for us, so that one day it is easier to share with people who may not have been there, or so we can reminisce about a special day in our life. A caterer will feed us all, with the focus on having plenty to share around a table. Decorations are minimal, but the wine will be plentiful. Dancing may evolve organically, but at the core I hope that there will be conversation as people reconnect or establish new relationships.
Whenever I am flustered or overwhelmed, I can think back on this. Keep it simple, trust in love and know it’s all going to work out just fine.